> I'm really not convinced mental pain is much better than physical pain.
Yeah because it's a ridiculous conclusion you jumped to, where the only two options are violence vs "insults/passive aggressiveness/social ostracization". Those are not the only two options.
Teach your kids to listen to, understand and communicate their feelings properly.
I'm not sure this is a realistic expectation. Of course you want your kids to be perfect, but I have yet to see any parent succeed in such an endeavour.
I don't even think most adults can handle their emotions well enough for what you're suggesting.
Yeah because it's a ridiculous conclusion you jumped to, where the only two options are violence vs "insults/passive aggressiveness/social ostracization". Those are not the only two options.
Teach your kids to listen to, understand and communicate their feelings properly.